Understanding The Patient

referIt is important to realize that a person going thru a difficult emotional or mental health episode needs understanding and support it is a real illness with real symptoms – just saying to the patient “come on snap out of it” doesn’t work for comparison purposes it is like telling someone with a broken leg “just go up the stairs” and just like you understand that it is impossible without a cast and crutches it is exactly the same with mental and emotional disorders.

In fact if you do not show that you empathize and understand that there is a problem chances are that they will just get worse – by implying that there is something wrong with him that he can’t just snap out – so in additional to the disorder that he has you have just added one more worry/anxiety to the list.

To put it into a perspective lets say you are going to work and someone comes to you to make a hold up with a gun asking for money – you will understand that it is a frightening experience and you will get sweaty, heart palpitations, headaches  and so on, a person going thru an episode of emotional or mental distress has the same thoughts and symptoms at the time of the episode – that a regular normal person would only have in a real emergency. and just as you understand that a regular person when facing a gun you can’t just tell them to take yourself together and relax – the same way you can’t say it to a person with emotional or mental disorders while they are experiencing an episode of distress.